Over the past few years, I have found that finding common ground with people is crucial. Ultimately, it’s not important whether you are right or not; taking a step back in order to understand where the other person is coming from is far more beneficial. An article I read recently stated the following:
Building common ground requires communicating resourcefully and respectfully. Resourceful communicators know their own core beliefs and values but are also willing to identify with people who are different, understand their ways of communicating, and establish common goals and values. Respectful communicators practice civility and tolerance by observing ground rules such as preserving confidentiality, avoiding interruptions, using considerate language, and checking the accuracy of their assumptions.
This can be difficult to do in the middle of a heated discussion, especially for those of us that suffer from a little symptom referred to as “stubbornness.” That’s why I recommend establishing common ground before an argument occurs. Of course, this is not always possible. However, establishing some ground rules at the beginning of relationships, with friends, significant others, professionals, etc., provides an openness and understanding that all parties will benefit from. In addition, when conflict does arise, this understanding will allow the discussion (hopefully) to be more productive.
Source: http://highered.mheducation.com/sites/0072959827/student_view0/chapter8/index.html